
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Happy Birthday!

Monday, November 10, 2008
Ryan's Surgery
Ryan's Surgery Update
Thanks for all the well wishes and support!!
Sunday, November 09, 2008
Weekend Happenings
We have had a somewhat relaxing, somewhat quiet, and a very enjoyable weekend.
Friday night we hung out at home. I was a bit ancy to do something, but by the time we ate, got my shot, etc. I was ready for bed! We did watch some of the Womb movie (which we *finally* finished - without me falling asleep!)
Saturday morning we got up and went Garage Saleing. There weren't that many to go to and it was raining.... but we got a pie pan and a few movies for the boy to watch (Saturday night). We then came home and had turkey sandwiches on sourdough bread with some chips. YUM. (This has been my staple latley). K then took a nap, I played on the computer, and then we started to put Christmas lights up........
(Silly us with all the lead, etc. in Christmas lights...... so I washed my hands and put gloves on.....) We got part of the house done with red and white....(we are having to re-clip all the lights which is time consuming!)
Saturday night we had Braxton over for a sleep over :) We watched Free Willy 2, played some Wii Bowling, Baseball, and Tennis and played in the water :) It was fun! K slept with him..... and I slept in our bed. Sure like it better when we sleep together! :)
Sunday we're just cleaning house, doing laundry, and relaxing a bit.
Dad's been gone since Thursday..... he went to Aunt Tom and Uncle Mary's and then headed over to Grand Coulee to spend some time with Mom...... so he'll be home here in a few hours.
We are having, guess what? TURKEY for dinner. We got a turkey from Costco....it is herb rubbed turkey breast and is YUMMY. So, we'll eat that tonight and have sandwiches the rest of the week with it!
Ryan goes in tomorrow for her surgery....... she's a bit nervous about it, which I would expect one would be.....so thinking a bit extra about her today. Everything that is meant to be, will be......
People have asked me what my numbers are......I don't get tested anymore for numbers. I got 2 checks - one for the positive and the 2nd for the doubling. Now, I'm pregnant :) I'm just like any other pregnancy.....(and some may get more blood checks then others). I have my first midwife appointment on December 4th....... and as you can see above..... I was one week ahead of myself last week...... so we are just now into our 5th week..........it seems like it has been forever already!!
That's it for now..........
Saturday, November 08, 2008
Have You?
1. Started your own blog
2. Slept under the stars
3. Played in a band
4. Visited Hawaii
5. Watched a meteor shower
6. Given more than you can afford to charity
7. Been to Disneyland/world
8. Climbed a mountain- elevation 2,409 ft (Big enough mountain for me!)
9. Held a praying mantis
10. Sang/played a solo - maybe in elementary school, I don't remember
11. Bungee jumped
12. Visited Paris
13. Watched a lightning storm at sea
14. Taught yourself an art from scratch
15. Adopted a child
16. Had food poisoning
17. Walked to the top of the Statue of Liberty
18. Grown your own vegetables
19. Seen the Mona Lisa in France
20. Slept on an overnight train
22. Hitch hiked
23. Taken a sick day when you’re not ill
24. Built a snow fort
26. Gone skinny dipping - never have but ALWAYS wanted to!!
27. Run a Marathon
28. Ridden in a gondola in Venice
29. Seen a total eclipse
30. Watched a sunrise or sunset
31. Hit a home run
32. Been on a cruise
33. Seen Niagara Falls in person
34. Visited the birthplace of your ancestors
36. Taught yourself a new language
38. Seen the Leaning Tower of Pisa in person
39. Gone rock climbing
40. Seen Michelangelo’s David
41. Sung karaoke
42. Seen Old Faithful geyser erupt
43. Bought a stranger a meal at a restaurant
44. Visited Africa
45. Walked on a beach by moonlight
46. Been transported in an ambulance
47. Had your portrait painted
48. Gone deep sea fishing
49. Seen the Sistine Chapel in person
50. Been to the top of the Eiffel Tower in Paris
51. Gone scuba diving or snorkeling
52. Kissed in the rain
53. Played in the mud
54. Gone to a drive-in theater
55. Been in a movie
56. Visited the Great Wall of China
57. Started a business
58. Taken a martial arts class
59. Visited Russia
60. Served at a soup kitchen
61. Sold Girl Scout Cookies
63. Gotten flowers for no reason
65. Gone sky diving
66. Visited a Nazi Concentration Camp
67. Bounced a check
68. Flown in a helicopter
69. Saved a favorite childhood toy
70. Visited the Lincoln Memorial
71. Eaten Caviar
72. Pieced a quilt
73. Stood in Times Square
74. Toured the Everglades
75. Been fired from a job
76. Seen the Changing of the Guards in London
77. Broken a bone - in a guys shirt...LOL
78. Been on a speeding motorcycle
79. Seen the Grand Canyon in person
80. Published a book
81. Visited the Vatican
82. Bought a brand new car - DUMBEST car ever!
83. Walked in Jerusalem
84. Had your picture in the newspaper
85. Read the entire Bible
86. Visited the White House
87. Killed and prepared an animal for eating
88. Had chickenpox
89. Saved someone’s life
90. Sat on a jury
91. Met someone famous
92. Joined a book club
93. Lost a loved one
94. Making a baby ;o)
95. Seen the Alamo in person
96. Swam in the Great Salt Lake
97. Been involved in a law suit
98. Owned a cell phone
99. Been stung by a bee - ask my mom about this one!!
And...I VOTED FOR OBAMA!!!
Thursday, November 06, 2008
Quick Morning Post
Secondly, am feeling good.....haven't really had any bouts of nausea lately and is kind of just an "unknown" time and hope that my numbers are continuing to increase and we have our first midwife appointment on December 4th! :)
Thirdly, thinking about my sister who will be going in for biopsy/surgery on Monday to remove an ovary and/or uterus......and will be off work for some time (and have the financial stress of that). That she have some peace now...and until Monday and keep her mind off of it. Mom and Grandma will go down for the surgery. (The doctor does not believe it is cancerous).
That's it for now.................. more later.
Monday, November 03, 2008
Monday Night Thoughts
Tonight I felt a bit emotional......am sure it'll happen more often than not.......and just accepting it and letting it be.... helps. :) My mom was a good person to talk to...... and Dad was a good person to make me laugh :)
Wanna hear all that's gone on the past few days - to maybe put me out of sorts a bit?
Daylight Savings Time (and my sleep schedule all screwed up - and I NEED my sleep!)
Oh, my sleep schedule screwed up from being too hot......
Anxiety of pregnancy tests, blood tests, etc.
nah...not too much been going on :)
I felt great today at work! We woke up early and had our coffee before showering. This may be our new routine so I can have something in my stomach. It seems that really helps. I didn't start feeling a bit queasy until tonight. I went to make chicken, and some thai-lime rice that I had bought at Trader Joes......well I couldn't even smell that rice.......yuck. So, it is in the fridge and we'll see if K wants to eat it........and/or if I could stomach the smell tomorrow. I did eat some chicken (felt as if I needed some protein) and then some broccoli. I then ate a few crackers. I'm feeling a bit hungry and will try to eat something a bit of protein before going to bed and see how that helps. :)
Today after getting the pregnancy test - it finally dawned on me - we're going to have a kid. CRAZY!!!!!!!!
I called the midwife today.....she'll probably call me back tomorrow. :) We're very excited for our first appointment.
OH and the whole week thing (not knowing etc.) the only reason I'm wanting to know is I'm reading a Pregnancy Week by Week book and don't wanna be reading ahead! I NEED TO KNOW! (I'll ask Winni tomorrow)
It just doesn't make sense what the IVF clinic said. They said I'm 4 weeks, 2 days from October 22nd. how does that work? I can't even be 4 weeks, 2 days from October 17th! The first day of my last period was October 4th.......hhhhhhhhhmmmmmmmmmm.........it's all good. This is the only reason I'm wanting to know......heck, I know the babies gonna come when they are ready!! :)
Waiting for my wife to get home from a movie.......then I'm headed to bed.
Number
Sunday, November 02, 2008
Happy Birthday Denise!!

This post is filled with wishes
for a very special day,
One that brings a world of joy
and happiness your way-
It's also filled with loving thoughts
especially meant for you,
For you're the kind of person
happy things should happen to!
~ Happy Birthday ~
Love you!
Randi and K
Post for Grandma To Be

Early Morning Stuff
Then I got up, got me a banana, and looked at the clock on the stove and busted a gut. Somehow I had changed the clock back 2 hours and have been going stir crazy in the bedroom saying NO YOU CAN'T GET UP YET! when in all actually it was 6 (or 7). Still too early, but more doable then 5am!
Nonetheless, I'm up, I feel good, and cozy'd up with dad's laptop in my chair with a blanket.......and my banana............in which I've been eating lots. LOL
Oh and a little tidbit that I thought I got to read only to week 4 yesterday - but K informed me I am on week 5! I am already 5 weeks pregnant! THAT'S NUTS!!!!!! She informed me last night I have 8.5 more months to go!
The tidbit from my pregnancy book: Women with nausea and vomiting have a lower chance of miscarriage. BRING IT ON! :) I wonder if some people just have nausea but never any vomiting? and if what I feel now is all I will feel? or if it will get worse?........or better? :) just thinking outloud.......
Saturday, November 01, 2008
Past 2 Days
This morning we woke up and had coffee, read the paper, ate ham and egg mcmuffin for breakfast and then went to Bellingham to the bank, The Greenhouse (kind of a store like Pier One but more fun!) (we got some candles and a new spatula) and then we went to Trader Joes (for a few items...... Ginger tea, crystallized ginger, a sandwich for lunch, etc.). We then stopped by a friends house to see the work she had done. Visited a friend of this friend to see her new house and then back home we came. We took down the Halloween Decorations and then we started to put clips on our Christmas lights only to find out our C9 clips don't fit our C7 bulbs. We may have to go purchase some smaller clips (but we really like the C9 clips).
I'm thinking of starting a separate Baby Blog - to follow the happenings, etc. of our journey. Any suggestions as to what it should be called? Or would you prefer me to take over this blog with the baby stuff? (just wanting some opinions.... :o)
I felt queasy on Thursday morning from about 10am-1pm. I didn't feel anything yesterday until 8pm (but that was because I needed to eat). Today, I didn't eat until close to 9am (after coffee) and after eating I felt very queasy and felt that way up until about 1pm. Tonight I felt a bit queasy too but I think that is because we had Taco Soup for dinner and it is pretty acidy. Other than that, I'm feeling just fine :) night sweats.......and am either cold and/or hot. No in between.
I think that is it for now....... I'll see if I can't get some Halloween Pics on here tomorrow sometime.
XOXOXOXOXO
Friday, October 31, 2008
Suck My Blood
now the wait.....................
I'm feeling quite comfortable and not too anxious actually........ :)
Stay tuned. K's getting the call on the cell at work......and until the correct people are told first, I will not be posting......but will do my best to contact those people ASAP. :) (ya know, Popi, Mom, Ryan......)
XOXOXO!!
Thursday, October 30, 2008
To Pee or Not To Pee
Ventured Out!
Also, I found this website today:
Causes & Symptoms
The exact cause of morning sickness is unknown, but several factors are thought likely to contribute to the illness, including:
Postnasal drip.
Many pregnant women experience postnasal drip and/or nasal congestion, triggered by high levels of estrogen in their bloodstream. Estrogen increases the blood flow throughout the body, including the mucous membrane of the nose. This postnasal drip contributes to upset stomach in many pregnant women.
But then again I do have estrogen patches on - but didn't seem to have this issue with them when I first started taking them?????......
oh we shall see..........................
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Good Morning!
Today I plan on making a card or 2, boiling some eggs for my dear wife to take with her to the work potluck tomorrow, and hanging out. :) Tomorrow is my busy day.......here's what I have planned.......
Go to Jenae's with K to get her hair done for Halloween (stay tuned for pics!)
Go to Bellingham IVF for pregnancy blood test
Stop by Trader Joes and get me some more rice milk and whatever else I feel like buying
Come back home and try to figure out if I feel like going to the work potluck or not :)
Put our hiding pumpkins out (people have smashed a few in our neighborhood so they've been on our back porch!) oh wait, K has to do this...... no lifting! :)
Listen for my phone to ring.....but not answer it......and wait, wait, and wait until K comes home to get the results......and did I say Wait? :)
Try not to go to nut-so waiting........ :)
Hand out lots and lots of candy to young and old.....and have fun!
(We chose the night where we are going to be most social.......to find out the results - grand huh?) It usually takes a bit to soak in.......
Ok, enough, enough........
and did I mention I'd really love to be going to Corvallis tomorrow?..............that'd be a be all to end all of a week of vacation......... but it isn't going to happen.............
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Ancy Today
I'm not a big shopper...so doing that scene doesn't really sound like "fun". I don't really like to watch movies and/or TV. I'm not really a huge reader.....oh and my knitting has been at work (I need to email K!) I could be doing that!
I've taken a nap each day, which is nice :) I'd like to do something fun tonight..... don't know what that might be.....payday isn't until Friday........
Am I pregnant? am I not?.... that question is repeated through this brain of mine several times a day...... do I do the blood test in Bellingham? Do I call and have the info forwarded to my local doctor?.... it'd give me something to do.....at least on Friday.......*shrug*
wanna entertain me with any comments? :)
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Rat Information
THE RAT INFO
Randi
Monday, October 27, 2008
Feed The Hunger
FREE RICE
Inspector Extrodinaire!

We got an email from Uncle Joe telling (K) the Great White Huntress (who set out the bait) had caught one BIG DEAD rat!
We asked him for pictures - doesn't have a camera. We asked him to describe, and here is the description:
By BIG I mean body 6-8 inches long and 6 inch tail. It was brown and gray. I am not sure about what you mean by fluffy tail. It did not have a normal rat tail. It was shorter then the body, but there was lots of hair and the end (about 1-1 1/2 inches) was bushy.
I wonder if there are any more living with it? K said - at least its a CUTE rat.
Lawn Mower Saga

Family Get-Together / Pumpkin Carving / Drumming




Thanks for letting us come and enjoy each and every one of you! :)
Rosa

Future Popi

Vacation
ENJOY!
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Pregnancy Thoughts this A.M.
Also, when I asked the grade of the eggs - they just told me they were "great". REALLY irritates me that they wouldn't tell me the actual grades. Then I asked what the grades of the Blastocycsts were......and they said they can't grade those because they are millions of cells.......but upon looking it up online they do grade Blasts........ :(
I may call on Monday and just have them send me all my records - and I'll see for myself - the grades! :) or see if I can get Karen to help me figure it out....... guess it doesn't really matter now - but may give me some peace of mind :)
these are true thoughts......even BEFORE coffee! :)
Saturday, October 25, 2008
Saturday Evening Happenings
We sent Mom off on her way today to Ryan's for a few days. It sure was nice to have her here for a week.......I don't know how well of an entertainer I am, honestly........plus the time we got to spend together.......was mostly days on which I had to be down........but it was fun nonetheless, even if we watched Woot for over 24 hours and missed the damn bag of crap!!
K and I had bacon and eggs for breakfast this morning - man it was good. I was craving bacon :) We bought some special, more natural bacon - and we both didn't burp it up. We decided the extra cost was worth it. :) We then watched Into The Wild with Dad (Great movie, again!) and then got ready for the day........ headed out to the store for a few things, pumpkin patch, and then came home. We had carne asada for dinner with guacamole and salsa with tortillas. It was yummy.
I'm sitting down now and writing this and am exhausted.......will be hitting the sack soon.
Tomorrow all of us will head down to Aunt Tom and Uncle Mary's for some pumpkin carving, some good vibe prego drumming, and just plain hanging out with family! :) can't wait!
Friday, October 24, 2008
Happy Birthday Moonie Mama

some special pleasure
To the hours of your day
To know you're being thought of
In the very warmest way...
And when your birthday's over,
Hope that you'll remember, too,
The same warm thoughts as always
Will keep going out to you!
~ Happy Birthday ~
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Unschooling FAQ
(Posted with permission)
Frequently Asked Questions About Unschooling
When we first started unschooling, I would get on the (now defunct) unschooling.com message boards and ask at least one question just about every day. These quickly became "Dragonfly's Question of the Day," and the women and men who answered me showed considerable patience and creativity in their replies.
Nowadays, I answer a fair number of newbie questions myself, primarily on the unschooling.info message boards. I mostly enjoy it, and I am mostly patient in my replies. Creative? Not so much. There are only so many ways to answer the same questions.
So, here are some FAQs and my answers to them, with some answers swiped (from myself) right from the boards.
1. How will my kids learn anything if I don't teach them?
They will learn the way adults learn. Something will catch their interest, they will explore it until they are satisfied (for now), and then they'll move on. Later, they'll learn something else that reminds them of that thing they learned before, and they'll make a connection. "Oh, hey, that's like..."
True knowledge is made up of those connections, and that's what unschoolers value.
2. I'm ready to try unschooling, but my spouse isn't convinced. What do I do?
Remember that your spouse's concerns stem from the same place that your interest in unschooling does: concern for your kids. Then, from that place of shared concern, ask to be given some time to explore this intriguing way of homeschooling. Share some resources. Encourage participation. Ask for a moratorium on criticism of how the kids' time is spent.
As an aside, I'm not entirely sure why Frank went along with it. It was a big leap for such an academically minded guy. Maybe it was faith in me, maybe it was faith in our kids, maybe it was a simple desire to be agreeable and get me to be quiet. :-) Whatever. He signed off on the experiment, and no more than three months later found himself in the role of stay-at-home unschooling dad. And here we are...
3. How do we start?
Relax. Take your summer vacation now (even if it's the dead of winter). Say "Yes" a lot. Have fun. Play with your kids. Watch. Wait. Stay calm.
Get it.
Strew.
From March 2006:
[Strewing] involves making a wonderful variety of resources available to your kids with no expectation or requirement that the resources ever be used. These can be books, toys, or supplies left casually on tables or in bathrooms or presented quietly or with fanfare directly to your child. They can be posters hung on walls, craft or music or gaming activities that *you* start, Web pages left open on the computer, magazines subscribed to, alternate driving routes taken, etc. It is SO fun to do, and it creates an environment of discovery and fun in your house.
The things you strew can be in support of interests your [child] has expressed or about just any old thing you think of. In the recent past, I've strewn my daughters' paths by:
Leaving http://www.WorldWideWords.org open on the computer to the page outlining the origins of the phrase "mind your p's and q's," which my daughter had asked about in passing one day. (She read it and then continued surfing the site.)
Taking the whole family to a dirt-bike event. (Fun for all four of us.)
Bringing home some bargain books on poetry and art, plus a history book called "Lies My Teacher Told Me," that really grabbed everybody's attention! :-) (All three books have been flipped through, but it was my dh who read the history book cover to cover.)
Bringing home a new XBox game called Gotham Racing or something like that. (We've all played, the girls laughed SO much together. The XBox was on for at least a couple of hours every day for a week or so; now it's been off for days.)
Leaving out a book I already own about building catapults. (No takers yet.)
Inviting over a friend and her 12yo son whom my girls had never met before. (A very fun evening. One of the highlights was my friend's son completely un-self-consciously demonstrating a folk dance he'd learned.)
All this happened in and around all our usual activities. Actually, there's been nothing usual about our schedule these past few weeks, which goes to show how little time strewing can take! But never doubt that your usual activites can provide a lot of strewing, too. In our case, we've been making arrangements for my younger daughter's departure to England (lots of history and geography and tidbits gleaned), and I've been doing a lot of networking to arrange some get-togethers with local unschoolers because my older daughter wants to meet more people. And then there's work and going to watch my dh earn his first Iaido (Japanese swordsmanship) ranking and, oh yeah, HOURS of prep work for my younger daughter's 12th birthday party on Saturday — she wants to do about a dozen projects out of this wizard party book she found at the library. We're making candied rose petals today — a first for me in several ways, and yet another example of how they strew *my* path with interesting things.
4. What is deschooling?
From Feb. 2004:
Your son needs to deschool... He *needs* to play those games. He needs it the same as he needs food to eat and air to breathe. Try thinking of the time he spends on those games as chemotherapy. If he had cancer, you wouldn't begrudge him his treatments, right? Well, the schooling has been eating away at his joy, sense of self, curiosity and creativity, much like a tumor eats other cells.
Deschooling is an ongoing process whereby kids and parents recover from the sort of brain cancer that happens in school.
For kids, the cure for this cancer is simply time spent doing just whatever they want. Ideally, they have the unflinching support of their parents during this time.
How much time? The usual rule of thumb is one month of deschooling for every year spent in school. So, for example, I knew MJ was going to need approximately 5 months of deschooling time when we pulled her out of school in 4th grade.
Of course, "knowing" this and actually staying calm while it is happening are two very different things. My daughter watched TV for four months straight. Scary? You betcha. Did I offer unflinching support? Umm, not exactly. I probably artificially extended her deschooling with my periodic (frequent) "Don't you want to do something else?" comments.
Then it was summer and she went outside to play. But in September, when the neighbor kids went back to school, she returned to the TV. This time, however, she had her sketchbook on her lap and sketched while she watched TV. It was a change, and, fortunately, I recognized its significance and kept my big mouth shut.
Nowadays, MJ is still video-oriented, just like her dad. She probably always will be. But the TV is simply a tool that provides entertainment, learning, social opportunities, what have you, on demand (or On Demand), when she feels like it.
For parents, deschooling can take much longer. Or it comes in waves. We've been unschooling for more than five years, and Frank and I still have to monitor our thoughts, speech, reactions, expectations, etc. We still explore unschooling concepts regularly and talk about them with other unschooling parents. For us, living this life requires regular refresher courses. So to speak.
5. What do I tell the school district?
That you're homeschooling. You are! Recordkeeping requirements vary from state to state, but the most rigorous is probably New York, with its IHPs and portfolios and I don't know what all. And yet many unschoolers thrive in New York, without telling a single lie.
Start keeping a journal of your kids' daily activities. At intervals, translate what they've been doing into school-speak. You'll be surprised at how many age-specific learning objectives they touch on, naturally. Others, they'll touch on at different ages (oftentimes much earlier than the schools would introduce them), but they'll still get them.
They don't call 'em the basics for nothing. And a perusal of World Book's Typical Course of Study will show you exactly how basic the basics are.
6. That's fine for elementary school, but what about high school?
First off, question your assumptions. High school does not look the same for every student, and the high school years will not look the same for every unschooler. Some end up taking some courses. Some get intrigued by a subject and read college-level textbooks that Mom found for $1 on the clearance shelf at Half Price Books that have been gathering dust on the shelf at home for more than a year. Some learn skills on their own by following interests that lead them into jobs that become careers. And some do a combination of these.
Higher math. Chemistry. Foreign languages. Unschoolers study these things, because they want to or because they have a goal for which studying these things is a requirement. How do they study them? Just the way an adult would if the adult wanted or needed to study them.
Remember that MJ signed up for a credited community college class at 14!
A big part of an unschooling parent's job is finding ways for our kids to learn what they want to learn. It's just something we do. In our case, we're in an urban area with lots of resources, so it's not even that hard.
7. What about the ACT and SAT? Can unschoolers get into college?
Yes! To a college, an unschooler is a homeschooler. Homeschooler entrance requirements will vary from college to college. Cafi Cohen has written a good bit on the subject of homeschoolers getting into college:
http://www.fun-books.com/authors/Cafi_Cohen.htm
The ACT and SAT tests are open to homeschoolers.
http://homeschooling.gomilpitas.com/olderkids/CollegeTests.htm
In some states, a diploma can be issued by your school (your parents). Again, the acceptability of this document will vary from college to college. As will the acceptability of a GED.
The better question here is, how can this particular unschooler get into The School that will help her achieve her dreams? You can't plan for every college in the world. Pick the few that you are most interested in, learn their requirements, and then go from there.
And keep in mind that there's no law that says the applicant has to be able to meet their requirements by age 18 or any other magic number.
8. What about socialization?
More assumptions revealed. If you've got some time, I expound on this topic at length here.
9. Will my child fall flat, or fall short, if I don't push/encourage/expect?
Will your child fall flat if you *do*? It's possible. You can do damage with pushing and expectations.
But unschooling parents encourage our kids all the time, so I wouldn't group that with push/expect.
10. How will my kids learn self-discipline?
What do you mean by self-discipline? Do you mean the ability to stick with a plan? Do you mean the ability to do something unpleasant that just has to get done? Do you mean taking care of hygiene every day? All of those?
Ask yourself: How does schooling *really* contribute to any of that? Is schooling what made you into a responsible adult? Or was it real life (or natural inclination) that did that?
Both of my daughters have completed major projects. Both have faced frustrations and disappointments and persevered anyway. Both shower regularly and are "presentable" most of the time. Both have messy bedrooms that they have, at one time or another, voluntarily cleaned.
Both have helped us get ready for houseguests. :-)
Sound like regular kids, don't they?
11. I'm okay with unschooling for academics, but the radical unschooling lifestyle seems like too much! How do I relax about:
food choices
hygiene
appearance
chores
manners
time spent indoors/outdoors
time spent on TV/computers/video games/reading/etc. etc. etc.
For me, most of these boil down to societal expectations ("the shoulds"). Sure, some of them can be couched in terms of the child's health and welfare or future happiness, but I found when I examined them closely, and actually tried the unschooling way, that there wasn't any evidence that the societal way led to any better outcome than the unschooling way.
My biggest weapons for stripping away societal expectations and getting down to what was right for our family are "Why?" and "Why not?"
"Chloe should have her hair brushed (even though she hates it and it makes her cry)." Why?
"MJ shouldn't wear that skimpy top?" Why not?
Anytime the reason behind a "should" boils down to any form of "what will people think," I throw it out. That reasoning is simply not valid in our lives.
"But if I let them..." - Sandra has a great collection of the horrors that various parents have imagined over the years. Well, folks, I know a whole lot of unschoolers and not one of these dreaded outcomes has come to pass.
12. I've heard unschooling described as "unparenting." Do you neglect your kids?
(this is not usually asked outright but regularly implied)
You know, this is probably in the eye of the beholder. I don't force my kids to brush their teeth, so one might say I neglect their dental hygiene. This dad didn't force his daughter not to skip school, so a judge decided he was neglectful and put him in jail.
But in both cases, it comes down to the choices of the teens in question. In neither case are the teen's choices limited by a lack of supplies, options, or information.
Sure, I could run around screaming, "Respect my authoritah!" Okay, I admit it, that happens from time to time. The result is general hilarity and, yes, the respect I deserve. :-)
But I could do more than that. I could punish, withhold privileges, nag, threaten, shame, tease, and generally make a nuisance of myself. But what would it get me? Kids with cleaner teeth? Maybe. Kids with fewer cavities? Unlikely, since they have a total of about 3 fillings between them.
What I *know* it would get me—because I have lived it—is battles. A home full of battles.
No thanks.
13. What if we decide to unschool and it ruins our kids' lives?
What if you leave them in school and that ruins their lives? How is that path any safer than the unschooling path, when taking a quick spin on Google will show just how fraught with peril is school?
One of my earliest steps toward embracing unschooling was brought about by someone on the old unschooling.com boards asking me if I was sure school would prevent any of the things I was fearful of. The answer, of course, was no. (I should have known this better than anybody, since I'd already had a suicidal six-year-old by the time I asked.)
There are many people who force their kids to Do Everything Right who end up with angry and rebellious kids, kids who drop out of high school, unhappy-but-successful kids, or some combination of these. There are no guarantees. All you can do is choose how you will respond to the reality of life today. All you can do is choose the kind of parent you want to be today, the kind of life you want your kids to have today, and the kind of relationship you want with them today.
Everything else follows from that.
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
I'm Home!
BUT, the news being they should be attached tonight :) and then we test on Halloween :)
Thanks for all the thoughts and energy!!
Randi
Short and Sweet
I'm doing my best to stay relaxed, although feel a bit stressed, anxious to hear what they have to say about all my embryos. It's kind of weird not having K around to go with me....... but sometimes that is just what happens in life. :)
So, were planning on implanting 2 - depending on quality. We got note today that our sperm specimen was not quality and we'll get more information (and possibly money) back from that.
I had a massage last night - felt great. K and I went out on a nice dinner date and she got me a very sweet card - blessing my womb and excited for me to be making our child(ren) :) Made my day.
Off to the shower......
I'll update when I come home if I feel up to.....and WOOT is having a woot-off for at least the next 24 hours. :) lots of good deals until they run out. Check it out!!
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Picture Tag!
So, here is my 6th picture in my 6th folder......
K's niece Amelia holding new sister Malaney :)
I tag.........RONNIE.
Weekend Happenings!
I'm feeling pretty good. Today was the first day I wore jeans. I've been in my sweats and/or stretchy pants as anything tight on my stomach was not sounding very appealing.
I'll go to work for the next few days and then the transfer is on Wednesday at 11:00am. Mom and I will be hanging out and I plan on setting up shop on the couch :) I'm sure we'll take lots of naps, watch TV, and just hang out.
Nothing all that exciting!
More later!
Saturday, October 18, 2008
Fertilization
I'm feeling pretty good today. I slept like poo last night - had so sleep with my head propped up. We took a little outing last night but I didn't last that long.....so we'll take a little bit longer of an outing today and I should do better. We're going to stalk up on books at the library, etc. for next week.
Mom and Dad are going to hang out with Aunt Tom and Uncle Mary today and so we'll just hang low. Right now we are watching last weeks Survivor and chillin'.
More later!
Friday, October 17, 2008
I'm Home!

Thursday, October 16, 2008
Retrieval Day
Tomorrow is retrieval, then they cook for 5 days..... then back in on Wednesday.
I'll update all the details sometime (or K will).
Lots of baby clothes scattered around tonight for good luck.....oh and pretty toes/flowers for all the women here tonight :) Pic to follow.
Randi
Monday, October 13, 2008
Baby Stuff
On Friday at the ultrasound as stated in a blog post, we had 14 eggs. Obviously we will not put all 14 back in. The doctor we see is very, very conservative. I don't believe he's ever had triplets born from his doings. He has suggested that we put 2 eggs back in. I was hoping for 3.... but asked the nurse on Friday and she said "He won't do 3". The eggs can still break off from the 2 they put in....
I go up here in about 15 minutes for another ultrasound, some blood work, and then I'll have the retrieval on Friday at 7:30am. I'll be put out for the retrieval but should be home by 11:00am at the very latest. (I think it maybe takes a 1/2 hour). Then the eggs will cook up all weekend, we'll get a call from the doctor and embryologist this weekend and possibly next week as to the "Grades" of the eggs, and Wednesday the 22nd is the transfer back in....... :)
Mom will be here Thursday - and we'll all go get our toes done! We'll lay around on Friday and then just chill out for the weekend. I'll work next Monday and Tuesday (the 20th and 21st) and then will be off until the beginning of November. I'm looking forward to the time off.
I better go snuff and puff and be on my way. :)
Randi
P.S. Cori - no John and Kate plus 8 - we'd take 1, 2 or 3 :)
First Knitting Project


Sunday, October 12, 2008
Ice, Bam, and Herman the Vermin
We stopped a few times on our way over......but one specific place we always stop is Hanks Mini Mart in Twisp, WA. We had parked, gone in and gone potty and then were trying to decide whether I should do my shots and/or wait until we got to Grand Coulee. I had the shots out and was ready to give them...... but then decided I'd have to give myself 2 shots and so thought I'd just wait. We had been sitting in the car with all the lights on. Dad was in the drivers seat, K was in the passenger seat, and I was on the back drivers side. We were just beginning to think about leaving, turning on the car, etc......and all the sudden BAM, and we moved. A black F-150 truck hit our 1999 Camry. They backed into the drivers side front panel and some of the drivers side door. It was totally driveable......but a bit of a shake up. That took an extra 20 mins to get insurance, etc. figured out. (Thankfully he had insurance.......and weird thing is - he lives in Burlington!)

We got to Grand Coulee about 10:30pm and I was completely exhausted and just wanted to hit the sack. I noticed when I got in bed that there were mouse nibbles on our duvet cover. I was a bit grossed out about it but they washed everything and I had come to the realization that there are just going to be mice in our place sometimes because we just can't close every single hole. Slept great Friday night. Saturday morning we woke up, were having coffee....and K says "Randi, wanna see something!"? She proceeds to take the towels off of the arms of the leather chair we have........to bear us nothing but yellow padding. SOMETHING had eaten the arms of our chairs!! Now.......this something had eaten the chairs, paper towel, towels, more bedding, etc. A mouse possibly could do this, but we're thinking a RAT. ugh. So.... thank you to some very special family members:
- Mom - For turning our heat on and noticing the big stinker
- Chris and Denise - For cleaning up the turds, doing the laundry and such
- Dad - for calling on the troops to take care of the mess
- Tom and Mary - for the support of the others :)



Saturday night, Herman the Vermin decided at 1am it was time to chew on the wood! Nonetheless, we were both kinda creeped out. We got back to sleep though and again at 4am we were once again woken to chewing on something. We're pretty sure he is under the house. We've now sprayed foam in every nook and cranny that may POSSIBLY have been a spot he could come in through. We've closed up some bigger holes, and now have put rat poison out for him to eat till his heart is content. We have asked Uncle Joe to check on our place once a week and just check to see if Herman is still alive and well and/or dead. We're not heading over again for the winter so I guess we'll see if more things are chewed our next go 'round. Sure creeps ya out thinking there is an animal of some sort in your house while trying to sleep!!
Eggs
On Friday when I went for my ultrasound I had 14 eggs! They like to have 5-10 so that was a very good number. I was a bit disappointed, only because my body naturally made over 20....but they took over my body for this IVF cycle and so my body didn't make as many as it normally would. Still, 14 is very good.
I have another appointment tomorrow (Monday) for an ultrasound, bloodwork and then the eggs get taken out on Friday!! :)
Thursday, October 09, 2008
Stay Tuned!
XOXOXOXO to all!
Thoughts and Prayers

Wednesday, October 08, 2008
Crazy Busy!
Tonight I got together with a friend at a local coffee house and got introduced to her new son Owen. Very very cute! I really enjoy this friend and her natural ways!!
Tomorrow night is Yoga again :) and I'm really enjoying all the calm aspects of it. I think it is helping me to keep more even keeled emotionally and I believe also helps my stomach to stay more on track.
Today I haven't been feeling all that hot. I didn't feel all that well yesterday either. I think we may now have it nailed down to certain hours after the follistim shot......(approx 10am-1pm) I've been battling a few migraines here and there too.......which I'm sure is from the medicine also. All in all, it isn't that bad - just takes some adjusting.
I'm getting a bit anxious for Friday to see how many eggs I'm making! The sweet receptionist called today from the clinic to check on K and I and see how I was feeling. You just don't get this in a BIG office. We are so blessed to have a small IVF clinic close enough to work that we don't have to take that much time off and it is really like a family.
I think we may head to Target to get some blueberry granola that I've been craving ever since I had it a few weeks ago and to buy some pretzels to help my stomach at work to calm down a bit.
We're headed to Coulee for the weekend with Dad. Don't know what pass we're going to take with all the snow.....the plan right now is North Cascades.....we'll see how it looks come Friday.
Over and out.
Randi
Sunday, October 05, 2008
Dumpster Diving
Fast forward to 9:30pm....go looking for my medicine. No where to be found. Do I remember right that I put it on the bathroom counter? bags are emptied.....no medicine in sight.
Next step.....did a cat knock it off into the garbage can? What are the odds that K would have emptied the bathroom garbage tonight (and into a separate bag) and we dug it open....and yep, sure enough in that bag of bathroom trash - was my $200 bottle of nose spray).
Now, the best part is.....if she hadn't happen to put it into a separate bag (which normally isn't done) we would've been sifting through fish guts and goo to find it.
Nose spray is done - dumpster diving is done - and I'm off to bed.
Busy Week
Tomorrow night we're headed to Bham to have dinner at a friends house!
Tuesday I have YOGA and missed last Thursday and can't wait to stretch and relax again!
Wednesday a group of ladies from a mothering board of mine are getting together at a local coffee shop!! CAN'T WAIT!
Thursday is YOGA.
Friday we're heading with dad to Grand Coulee for the weekend to close up shop.
Monday I start shots for the baby! YAHOO! :) I have my first "real" appointment to check my eggs on Friday morning..... can't wait to see what I produce!!
We're talking Christmas lights and trying to figure out what to do and/or where to get what.........
Rhody and/or Bonga if you're reading this - my Skagit Christmas sign is in my window :) feel free to put yours in at anytime!! :)
Randi
Riehl Family Campout - Weekend In Review

























